Administrator of Bais Yakov Tells Father to Leave Kollel
In these difficult economic times, yeshivos and schools are feeling the pain of no money, and are doing everything they can to raise sorely needed funds. In other words, that translates to them being tougher on tuition collection.
But nothing can excuse the behavior of one Bais Yaakov administrator. In the course of discussing tuition for one family who’s father learns full time in kollel, and the negotiations were getting intense. So the adminstrator tells the father, “It’s time for you to leave kollel, get a job, and pay tuition just like anyone else.”
Although the administrator is under an unbearable burden of managing the budget, we have to examine carefully what he said. He legitimately feels that all parents should do their utmost to pay for their share in their child’s tuition. However, a school’s success is largely dependent on the makeup of the parent’s that choose to send to that school. Kollel families generally are of a higher caliber, and raise the overall standard of the school.
Schools need fathers who learn in kollel just as they need families who are well off. The wealthy families, who could afford to send their children just about anywhere, will send to the school they perceive as being the best. “Best schools” are not created in a vacuum. It requires good teachers, attentive yet unintrusive management, but the most meaningful element is dependent on the makeup of the families who send their children to that school. Kollel families tend to have higher standards of chinuch, don’t allow their children to do things the schools don’t want them to do (going to ball games, watch TV, internet, etc.). Another huge plus that kollel families offer is that they don’t cause jealousy with the other kids by going to fancy hotels for Pesach and mid winter vacations to Florida.
Kollel families may not be able to pay the tuition he wants, but he still needs to appreciate the value that they add to his school.
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Filed Under: Kollel Finances
Wouldn’t it be nice if we could all just sit around and do whatever we want and not have to worry about working!
If they tell stay-at-home moms they have to leave in order to work, then why shouldn’t fathers have to work? Having a mother at home with young children is surely better than the local Mexican lady watching the kids, don’t you think?
I always find it amusing that people who are SOOOOOOOO worried about their milk being tainted with pig’s milk by anti-semites that they keep cholav yis, yet they leave their children and kitchens unwatched and in the care of antisemitic babysitters. I’ve even seen a Jewish babysitter who left a child under 2 home alone while she took the other two kids to school. The older kids will never tell their parents… they think it’s lashon hara. I’m not going to tell them because I don’t want to get in the middle of it.
Why can’t the men get a job like receptionist that would afford them significant down time where they can learn at their desks? I know, yes, there is a stereotype that this is woman’s work. Maybe we need to get over those stereotypes already.
Euuuh… A good school also needs to pay it’s teachers, no?
If they do not pay, the teachers will go and teach where they get paid. And only bad teachers who don’t find any other job will stay at that school…
Beis yaakov means that the daughter was over 15 years old?
So he really hopes to go through educating all his children without a single day of work????
(And come to tell me that 10$ contribution towards the chassene of his daughter are not enough, since they had so huge expenses???)
“Kollel families generally are of a higher caliber, and raise the overall standard of the school.”
“Kollel families tend to have higher standards of chinuch, don’t allow their children to do things the schools don’t want them to do (going to ball games, watch TV, internet, etc.).”
Can you please explain the above statements. This makes no sense.
Higher caliber of what?
What “standard” are you benchmarking?
Why is the mark of a good chinuch listening blindly to what the school says as opposed to making dynamic decisions about whats best for your individual child/family.