Burn Your Bridges – And Win

Aish shows in this video the concept of “burning your bridges” – a guaranteed way to get you motivated in doing things that you always have the ability to do, but just never get around to doing them.

Ever wonder why there are deadlines? Because if there wouldn’t be any, nothing would get done. Imagine if you had 5 years to pay a parking ticket, or if you could pay for airline tickets up to the day of departure at no extra cost. When would you pay for them? It doesn’t take a genius to know that the answer is – “At the latest possible moment.” Which is precisely why deadlines exist – to get things done.

When you are in kollel, and its really time to leave, but you are still living off your parents/in-laws/wife’s job, and it’s working (sort of), there is no hard deadline forcing you to take the plunge that you really should be doing.

So how do you light a fire under your seat? The only sure method is to change the status quo by telling everyone you know of your plans. That means telling your wife, parents, chavrusa, and just about anyone you know that you are leaving kollel by the end of the zman.

Once it becomes expected, you will play it out. The line has been drawn in the sand, and you will not cross it. That’s the beauty of peer pressure working in your favor. Getting you to do what you really should be doing – without pushing it off indefinitely.

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Tags: aish • deadlines • peer pressure