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Yonah – The Story of Just About Everyone

Yom Kippur is approaching, and the story of Yonah features prominently in the day’s theme. I’ve already mentioned Rav Mattisyahu’s beautiful remarks on how Yonah teaches us about the meaning of life. But like everything else in the Torah, there is a deeper meaning to the simple story. The Vilna Gaon explains the whole story […]

Rosh Hashana – A New Beginning

Besides all the fanfare that Rosh Hashana is a Yom Hadin, there is another aspect of the day – it is the beginning of a new year. A new year = a new beginning. What you were until today was all last year. This year is all new, untouched and unspoiled by the foolish mistakes […]

Feeling Like its Aseres Yemei T’shuva

Many people complain that they just don’t feel the special quality of the Aseres Yemei Tshuva. In their heads, they know how important these days are and how we must do t’shuva, but they have trouble feeling it in their hearts. As a bochur in yeshiva, its much easier to be inspired. There are extra […]

Day # 8 (and beyond): Back to Routine?

Every year it seems that we go through the same routine. Cry our heads off during viduy, promise to do better, and then life comes back to routine. Is there any meaning to all of it, if on Tuesday morning we all go back to our old selves? The truth is that there is hardly […]

Day # 7 – All Prepared for Yom Kippur (KABBALOS LIST)

Are you prepared for Yom Kippur? Most of us don’t give Yom Kippur much thought. It comes as always, on the 10th of Tishrei, at the most incovenient time of the year. School just started for the kids, Sukkos is only a few days away, and we are supposed to seriously reflect on our deeds […]

Day # 6 – Your Relationship with Money

Leaving kollel is all about taking control of your own finances, and so you will be focusing more attention on your finances. Before you get in “over your head” it important to make sure you control your attitudes towards money so that it doesn’t gain control over you. The Chafetz Chaim pointed out how in […]

Day # 5 – Remain in Learning Even After You Leave

Leaving kollel usually brings about devastation to one’s learning. While in kollel, the day revolves around the sedorim, the chavrusah, going to kollel and keeping up with the oilam. But once you leave kollel, there is no longer that focus to keep you anchored to the gemara. It is too easy to get trapped by […]

Day # 4 – Relationship with Friends & Relatives

Leaving kollel invariably will cause a stir amongst your friends, neighbors, acquaintances, and relatives. Its not every day that a serious learner picks himself up and goes out to work. During these Aseres Yemei Tshuva, you should make it a point to decide how to deal with all this gossip and incredulous stares that you […]

Day # 3 – Open Communication with Your Wife

After you established your own goals and priorities and bolstered your spiritual faith, its time to work on the most important person in your life – and that would be your wife. Leaving kollel often places a huge stress on your shalom bayis. First of all, there is the turmoil that you are facing, which […]

Day # 2 – Your Relationship with Hashem

These special days are very well suited to improving your relationship with Hashem, especially with regard to the issue of so-called “leaving learning” and going to work. It’s the time of the year that we put our matters in order, and sort out who we are and what we are supposed to be doing. It’s […]