All Entries in the "Parental Support" Category
The Gedolim Speak Out Against Excessive Kollel Support
Mishpacha magazine reported this week about a meeting that was held recently in Bnei Brak by an organization called Shehasimcha Bimono. The purpose of the meeting was to try and put an end to the prohibitive demands of support made by bochurim in shidduchim from girls’ parents, such as expensive apartments in Bnei Brak and [...]
Kollel Support Even After Divorce?
Sometimes you hear a story that shocks you so badly you can’t believe it to be true. But when it happens to close people you know, it becomes even more difficult to believe.
Yes, it is the norm that young men are supported by their parents and in-laws during their first years of marriage while the [...]
When Supporting Kids Just Never Stops
Reading Mishapacha’s article about the late philanthropist Moshe Saba of Mexico City, I came across something which is sure to be a controversial issue among many of you.
Moshe Saba, who was worth in the hundreds of millions, insisted that his son Alberto work part time. Here is the quote from Mishpacha magazine:
“Last Elul, Alberto [the [...]
How NOT to Support Your Kids
There are a few different ways of doing kollel support. Some are better than others, but then there is the type that is just plain stupid, and also very harmful to the family who is being supported.
A well known g’vir had been supporting his son-in-law and daughter for over 20 years by simply giving them [...]
Day # 4 – Relationship with Friends & Relatives
Leaving kollel invariably will cause a stir amongst your friends, neighbors, acquaintances, and relatives. Its not every day that a serious learner picks himself up and goes out to work. During these Aseres Yemei Tshuva, you should make it a point to decide how to deal with all this gossip and incredulous stares that you [...]
Lesson From the Parsha: Ki Seitzei
The ben sorer u’moreh never was. But its lesson remains clear. A 13 year old boy gets dragged into court to be sentenced to death – by none other than his parents. If one of them refused to bring him, he would not get killed. The punishment is only given if both of his parents [...]
Is it Better to Drive a Bike or a Train?
A train seems much better. It’s big, fancy, has lots of buttons on the control, stretches very long, makes loud whistle noises, and can travel great distances.
However, from the driver’s perspective, a train driver doesn’t really control anything. He just pulls the lever down to go faster, and pulls it back up to stop. He [...]
Who Pays the Rent?
Overheard at a recent (out of town) simcha:
You know what’s crazy? I pay more for my daughter’s rent of a basement apartment in Lakewood than I pay for my own mortgage!
If she’s writing the check to support you in kollel, she’s paying the rent. And yes, that makes you (who live there) a freeloader. Enjoy [...]
My Son the Lawyer…Not Anymore
It used to be a comfort to one’s parents when one would go to law school and become a lawyer, as that represented – in their eyes – the ultimate level of success. Go to school, study hard, apply yourself, graduate, and get a top job in a prestigious firm. Work 16 hour days, bill [...]
Fending for Yourself When Times are Hard
For years now, kollel has been indirectly funded primarily by the boom in real estate that so many of our bretheren had investments in. Now that the economy has dried up and real estate prices have gone south, funding for kollel has taken a big hit.
This affects both the kollel stipends themselves, forcing them to [...]
