All Entries in the "Parental Support" Category
Is It Called Love, or Something Else?
Loving your children is taken by many to mean showering them with care and taking care of all their problems. This is wrong. Actually, the most valuable gift to your children is not solving all their problems. Better to give them the strength and courage to deal with issues that come their way – on [...]
His Business is Failing, But he Has 5 Son-in-Laws in Kollel
There is a very fine person in our shul who is always learning, helping others, and supporting himself with his work. He was successful many years in business, but lately his business has declined considerably. He has 5 married daughters, each of them being fully supported by him. That means some of them have been [...]
Supporting Kids in Kollel – Are They Really Happy With It?
A common belief among parents of children learning in kollel is that financially supporting them throughout their years of learning is a positive experience. However, that almost always is never the case. A recent informal study done by Kollel Guy revealed that kollel men who were supported by their parents or in-laws for a period [...]
The Gedolim Speak Out Against Excessive Kollel Support
Mishpacha magazine reported this week about a meeting that was held recently in Bnei Brak by an organization called Shehasimcha Bimono. The purpose of the meeting was to try and put an end to the prohibitive demands of support made by bochurim in shidduchim from girls’ parents, such as expensive apartments in Bnei Brak and [...]
Kollel Support Even After Divorce?
Sometimes you hear a story that shocks you so badly you can’t believe it to be true. But when it happens to close people you know, it becomes even more difficult to believe. Yes, it is the norm that young men are supported by their parents and in-laws during their first years of marriage while [...]
When Supporting Kids Just Never Stops
Reading Mishapacha’s article about the late philanthropist Moshe Saba of Mexico City, I came across something which is sure to be a controversial issue among many of you. Moshe Saba, who was worth in the hundreds of millions, insisted that his son Alberto work part time. Here is the quote from Mishpacha magazine: “Last Elul, [...]
How NOT to Support Your Kids
There are a few different ways of doing kollel support. Some are better than others, but then there is the type that is just plain stupid, and also very harmful to the family who is being supported. A well known g’vir had been supporting his son-in-law and daughter for over 20 years by simply giving [...]
Day # 4 – Relationship with Friends & Relatives
Leaving kollel invariably will cause a stir amongst your friends, neighbors, acquaintances, and relatives. Its not every day that a serious learner picks himself up and goes out to work. During these Aseres Yemei Tshuva, you should make it a point to decide how to deal with all this gossip and incredulous stares that you [...]
Lesson From the Parsha: Ki Seitzei
The ben sorer u’moreh never was. But its lesson remains clear. A 13 year old boy gets dragged into court to be sentenced to death – by none other than his parents. If one of them refused to bring him, he would not get killed. The punishment is only given if both of his parents [...]
Is it Better to Drive a Bike or a Train?
A train seems much better. It’s big, fancy, has lots of buttons on the control, stretches very long, makes loud whistle noises, and can travel great distances. However, from the driver’s perspective, a train driver doesn’t really control anything. He just pulls the lever down to go faster, and pulls it back up to stop. [...]
