All Entries in the "Self Improvement" Category
Rosh Chodesh Elul – Make this One Different
Its the Elul time of year, bein hazmanim is over, and life is back to routine – all over again. Another zman, another limud, but the same old routine. But this time, let’s try something different. Instead of allowing another zman to drift through with the same result, do something remarkable. It’s a short zman, [...]
Lazy Comes in Many Forms
Lazy doesn’t just mean having a hard time getting up in the morning. It comes in many different forms. You can be too lazy to actually go to bed at night. You can be too lazy to write a letter to someone, pick up flowers for your wife, call your lonely uncle, or visit your [...]
Free Lunch vs. True Freedom
“There is no such thing as a free lunch.” It’s much easier to go for the free lunch. At least in the short-term. There is no worrying where your next meal is coming from, you don’t even have to decide on the menu. You may not love the food that is being served, but hey, [...]
Twice as Much in Half the Time
As frum people, we have to accomplish twice as much is half the time. Compared with the average family in the US, a frum family has at least double (most likely 3x) the expenses. Tuition, kosher food, clothing, summer camps, etc. Earning that extra money means having to work harder. But we also have much [...]
Being a Doer vs. Just a Onlooker
If you ever want to get an idea of how many people are out there on the internet, take a look at Wikipedia. There are millions of articles on every possible subject under the sun, all of them authored by anonymous volunteer experts on the particular subject matter. It is truly amazing to see how [...]
Day # 7 – All Prepared for Yom Kippur (KABBALOS LIST)
Are you prepared for Yom Kippur? Most of us don’t give Yom Kippur much thought. It comes as always, on the 10th of Tishrei, at the most incovenient time of the year. School just started for the kids, Sukkos is only a few days away, and we are supposed to seriously reflect on our deeds [...]
Day # 6 – Your Relationship with Money
Leaving kollel is all about taking control of your own finances, and so you will be focusing more attention on your finances. Before you get in “over your head” it important to make sure you control your attitudes towards money so that it doesn’t gain control over you. The Chafetz Chaim pointed out how in [...]
Day # 5 – Remain in Learning Even After You Leave
Leaving kollel usually brings about devastation to one’s learning. While in kollel, the day revolves around the sedorim, the chavrusah, going to kollel and keeping up with the oilam. But once you leave kollel, there is no longer that focus to keep you anchored to the gemara. It is too easy to get trapped by [...]
Day # 3 – Open Communication with Your Wife
After you established your own goals and priorities and bolstered your spiritual faith, its time to work on the most important person in your life – and that would be your wife. Leaving kollel often places a huge stress on your shalom bayis. First of all, there is the turmoil that you are facing, which [...]
Day # 2 – Your Relationship with Hashem
These special days are very well suited to improving your relationship with Hashem, especially with regard to the issue of so-called “leaving learning” and going to work. It’s the time of the year that we put our matters in order, and sort out who we are and what we are supposed to be doing. It’s [...]
