How to Leave Kollel Without Fear

Are you stuck? Not sure how to proceed forward once the time has come to leave the confines of full time kollel?

When its time to move forward, people tend to be stuck in their comfort zone – which is not that all comfortable as much as it is just familiar. Instead of the unknown, people stay where they know best, which is to do nothing.

Instead, here is a plan of action that works.

Tread slowly, but steadily forward, towards whatever it is that you would want to do but don’t have the guts to do.

It is scary to announce to everyone that you are leaving kollel suddenly. Why is it scary? Because everyone will talk and say things like, “Him? Why he was such a good guy. He must be having severe financial difficulties. Maybe his shver lost all his money…..”

But if you start working during bein hasdorim and at night, ramp it up during bein hazmanim, things won’t be as dramatic. It will slowly be realized that you are pursuing the path of “parnossah through independent channels”. When you finally do leave kollel, it won’t be a shock to those well meaning individuals, who instead of saying the above mentioned comments, will satisfy themselves by saying, “Yeah, I saw it coming.”

But most of all, you will have overcome your own fear. Getting yourself to do something is half of the battle. Conquer this, and you will be well on the way to success.

How to Leave Kollel Without Fear

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