Comments on: How NOT to Support Your Kids http://www.kollelguy.com/how-not-to-support-your-kids From Kollel Yungerman to Happy Working Man - A Complete Guide Fri, 25 Jun 2010 13:22:24 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Loyal Jew http://www.kollelguy.com/how-not-to-support-your-kids/comment-page-1#comment-77 Loyal Jew Tue, 23 Feb 2010 11:48:02 +0000 http://www.kollelguy.com/?p=387#comment-77 The mlral of the story eludes me too. Kollel support is required by Torah, not by the shadchen or the avreich. If the supporter runs into economic trouble, it's Hashem's way of saying that he played his cards wrong. Why should Torah suffer? The mlral of the story eludes me too. Kollel support is required by Torah, not by the shadchen or the avreich. If the supporter runs into economic trouble, it’s Hashem’s way of saying that he played his cards wrong. Why should Torah suffer?

]]> By: aaron http://www.kollelguy.com/how-not-to-support-your-kids/comment-page-1#comment-32 aaron Tue, 20 Oct 2009 02:50:25 +0000 http://www.kollelguy.com/?p=387#comment-32 This story reminds me so much of a story in my own extended family. My father has been married to a lovely, generous and well to do woman for the past ten years. Or rather, she was well to do til the current economic crisis. She has supported her son and his wife and 5 children in Yerushalayim their entire married lives. She has purchased apartments for each of the children when they were married. The father of the family, her 50 year old son, is learning full time and has been successful and conscientious in doing so. But he has never earned a living, never had to, and has no marketable skills. His wife also has never worked and this is not something she wants to do. Now my stepmother can't afford to buy an apartment for the 3rd child who just got married so they have to rent. But he promised the other side $75,000 toward an apartment, nonetheless, which his stepmother cannot pay and he cannot pay. What to do? Luckily, my stepmother bought her son a round trip ticket to America so he can collect. Collect money, I mean. With our hometown as a base, he collected from city to city, Lakewood, Monsey, Baltimore, Brooklyn. He was very successful with this trip as he speaks perfect English and is a gentleman, as my father described him. I don't know what the moral of this story is, or if there is one. I guess there's always something a man can do, short of going to work. Chana Esther This story reminds me so much of a story in my own extended family. My father has been married to a lovely, generous and well to do woman for the past ten years. Or rather, she was well to do til the current economic crisis. She has supported her son and his wife and 5 children in Yerushalayim their entire married lives. She has purchased apartments for each of the children when they were married. The father of the family, her 50 year old son, is learning full time and has been successful and conscientious in doing so. But he has never earned a living, never had to, and has no marketable skills. His wife also has never worked and this is not something she wants to do.

Now my stepmother can’t afford to buy an apartment for the 3rd child who just got married so they have to rent. But he promised the other side $75,000 toward an apartment, nonetheless, which his stepmother cannot pay and he cannot pay. What to do?

Luckily, my stepmother bought her son a round trip ticket to America so he can collect. Collect money, I mean. With our hometown as a base, he collected from city to city, Lakewood, Monsey, Baltimore, Brooklyn. He was very successful with this trip as he speaks perfect English and is a gentleman, as my father described him.

I don’t know what the moral of this story is, or if there is one. I guess there’s always something a man can do, short of going to work.

Chana Esther

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