Putting Yourself on the Map

A father of a girl in shidduchim had an interesting observation. As is the case with many eligible girls, the phone hasn’t been ringing with shidduchim for her. He realizes that the way things appear now, his daughter will not receive a fair amount of attention from the shadchanim. His idea – to put out a sefer on a topic that he has spent much time learning and writing about. That way, “I’ll be on the map”, he says.

Someone in kollel faces the problem on “not being on the map”. Aside from the fact that there is very little way to distinguish oneself, there is also the lack of any tangible accomplishments that one can use to point to as their answer to “what do you do?” (Please note: This is not to chas v’shalom put down the accomplishments of learning all day for years on end. Its just that the accomplishment is not something that is easily recognized and assigned value to in this world.)

What can you do to put yourself on the map? Figure out what it is, and don’t wait until your daughter is in shidduchim to do it. Put yourself on the map way before then, and by then it may have grown into a landmark of sizable proportions.

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Tags: map • seforim • shidduch crisis